Dating and getting to know someone can feel scary and exciting, and sometimes things can get more than a little confusing. Should I flirt and behave in a way that might make him more interested? Am I supposed to wait for him to make the first move? Or maybe I should just play it cool...
There is no standard way to behave when dating because we are all beautifully different and unique!
When we are trying hard to get someone to like us we tend to behave in the most awkward way! We get nervous and say the most random stuff because we feel like we just can’t relax and be ourselves, incase they don’t like it.
So, how can we release our nerves and feel more free to be ourselves? Rather than changing to behave in a way you guess he will like, shift your attention to the beautiful qualities you possess and focus on these. What qualities do you really like about yourself? For me I like how I can be kind, warm and open. And in other people I enjoy it when a person can listen, is friendly and can be honest about how they feel.
If you think to yourself, “What if he doesn’t like these qualities and he prefers something else?” Well, this allows you to move on and find someone much more suitable for you! Practice trusting life's wisdom and not settling if it doesn't feel right. Pretending to be the opposite of who you are and over thinking what is "right or wrong" will only make you uncomfortable and unnatural, and one day he will see that it is not real.
When you are comfortable with yourself and open about how you feel the other person will feel it and be comfortable with you too! So the next time that you are out on a date try letting go of the idea you have to perfect and remember the beautiful qualities you like about yourself. Focus on these aspects and allow the real, beautiful you to shine!
We are going to make mistakes in life, it's inevitable. If we allow ourselves to be gentle and kind about the mistake...