We are going to make mistakes in life, it's inevitable. If we allow ourselves to be gentle and kind about the mistakes we make we will learn and grow from our errors and move on with more awareness and knowledge. I think lots of us (myself included!) forget sometimes that the most important relationship we have in life is the one to ourselves. We are going to listen to our thoughts for the rest of our life, so instead of letting them be full of self criticisms, guilt and judgements, why not make them loving, encouraging and kind thoughts?
Here are five really good reasons to be kinder to yourself right now!
You're a student of life, you're allowed to make mistakes!
If you were absolutely perfect you'd probably be enlightened by now and radiating love to every friend and stranger you meet! Is that your reality? Me neither. My friend likes to tell me sometimes, "You know, you are not Buddha, you're allowed to make mistakes." How else will you learn if you don't make mistakes? Being hard on yourself and feeling guilty limits your ability to learn from your mistakes. Give yourself a break, learn, smile and keep going :)
Encourage yourself: The Toddler Analogy
This is one of my favourite little images for when my perfectionism is getting the better of me! Imagine a little toddler learning to walk. She stands up, takes a few steps but then she falls down. What would you do to her each time she falls? Would you feel annoyed and tell her she is useless? Or would you pick her up, cuddle her, encourage her and stay with her until she learns to walk? I am pretty sure you'd encourage her and that is exactly what you need to do with yourself too! Try treating yourself with the same softness and support as you'd give to an innocent toddler.
Each time you put yourself down, it matters!
Imagine that if each time you had a mean thought about yourself it appeared on your skin as a bruise. How many bruises do you think you'd have? Just because no one hears your negative self talk, or see's the impact of it outwardly, it does still impact you. Your negative self talk injures your self confidence, something we are all wanting to build up! So, try changing that self deprecating voice to a loving, compassionate one.
Self Judgement = Stress. Stress = higher Cortisol. Higher Cortisol = a less healthy, functioning body
Judging and putting yourself down adds stress to your life. When we are stressed we have elevated levels of the stress hormone, Cortisol. Here are a few side effects of higher Cortisol levels; weakened immune system, slower metabolism, hair loss, poorer digestion and fatigue. It just shows that what we think and feel really does effect us on all levels. It's so important to be loving and relaxed!
There is only one person you will be with 24/7 for the rest of your life; you!
You are going to be with yourself and your thoughts for the rest of your life, so why not make them loving ones? Guilt eats away at us from the inside and blocks us from experiencing peace and love. Give yourself a break, you are human and allowed to make mistakes. Put the guilt and negative talk to the side and treat yourself kindly. Honour and thank yourself for all the beautiful qualities you possess. A beautiful relationship to yourself will not only make your life nicer but people will want to be closer to you when they recognise how truly loving you are.
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