Ask Steph & Sach

Ask Steph & Sach

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How do I get a part-time job ?!

I am really keen to get a job during the weekends and after school hours, so I can start earning my own money to spend and start saving for when I am older. Do you have any tips on where to look (ie useful websites), and how to write a CV? It's all a bit overwelming, so advice will be really appr...

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I feel so not good enough in my relationship. What should I do?

My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months but we fight all the time. I am afraid he will leave me for someone else. I feel really jealous of other girls who get his attention and no matter how hard I try I just don't feel I am good enough. What should I do?

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Back-2-school

Hey :) I am really nervous to go back to school tomorrow. Do you have any tips on overcoming anxiety? I've never really been this nervous before to go back, but suddenly starting in a new year group (year 12) with different people and different teachers and different subjects has suddenly really ...

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How can i deal with negative comments?

Hi There, I'm in year 11 at high school and I'm finding it really hard to "fit in" i do an individual sport (running) at my school and everyone is always judging me and telling to stop because i won't get anywhere. I recently won the NZ road race for my age and i was told by a girl the i only wo...

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How can I ask for help without feeling like I'm attention-seeking

It started with restricting a few things from my diet, but now I'm restricting more and more. I will only eat 'healthy' foods, exercise constantly, in the hope that the number on the scale decreases. My parents have noticed, but don't make much comment because I've always been a fussy eater and t...

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All my friends have New Years plans except me. Can you help?

Hey, So all my friends have plans for NY's except me. None of my friends invited me to join them except one girl and my parents said I can't go with her (I'm still 16). I feel so stupid and left out for not having any plans. Whenever people ask me "what are you doing for new years?" I feel so du...

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How can I fit in more with my friends?

When I'm around my friends I feel a bit awkward and self-conscious. I always feel like I'm trying a bit hard but don't really fit in. I don't know how to be myself because I'm scared they'll judge me. How can I fit in and also feel good about myself?

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What does it really take to implement change in my life....to make different choices?

Can you talk to me about procrastination? I feel I want to make changes or different choices in my life but don't. I feel kind of 'stuck' and don't know what I can do about it. I feel my life could be so different if I understood why I procrastinate so much?

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I feel so depressed about my body, can you help me?

Hey :) I went shopping with my friends on the weekend and because it's coming up to summer we went to buy some new bikini's. I'm sixteen years old and most of my friends have amazingg bodies. I ended up leaving early because I was so upset. I felt completely ugly and not good enough. I felt s...

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My best friend has a new bf and because of their relationship we hardly ever hang out. What should I do?

My best friend has a new bf and she's so obsessed with him. We used to hang out all the time and do everything together but now I hardly see her because she's always with him. I don't have a boyfriend and I'm not as close to any other friends as I am to her. I really miss her and I'm upset she co...